Why do people want kids?
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I’m a 19 year old girl and before you say I’m still young and will change my mind, I know I dont wants kids- ever! I just dont like babies or kids; I find them irritating, messy and noisy. My aim in life is to be successful, have a really amazing job, travel and do what I want whenever I want. I don’t want marriage and kids; it seems like such a dull and forced existence. I dont understand why people want kids; I know its all this emotional crap about never loving anything so much like a baby. What if you turn out to have a horrible relationship with your child? What if they are the brat from hell? I dont get why people want to give up everything to have a kid. As a woman I dont want to give up my freedom, my body which I work so hard for (not being able to train at the gym and putting on weight during pregnancy would kill me) and kids are so much hard work. I hate the thought of changing nappies, constant mess, screaming and tantrums. Everyone sees having kids through rosy coloured specs, people think it will be like in adverts, but having kids looks like such a hard reality. It’s like having a dog; it looks so cute and fun, but in reality its not as great as it seems once you realise how much hard work a dog is. It will be difficult for me to find a man who feels the same as me on not having kids as men are even broodier than women these days. If I had kids I would resent the man for having it easy as having kids doesnt effect men in the way in affects women- men dont have to ruin their figures (and no you dont get it back- have you seen the mum tum), men dont have to emotional connection thing or have to be the primary caregiver (its still rare for men to stay at home- my ex boyfriend said that he was desperate to have kids one day and i asked if he would be a stay at home dad and he said no way- why have kids if you dont want to look after them?). I think men like the fantasy of having a son to kick a ball around with, but that’s it.
So my question is why do people have kids, apart from the reason to have someone look after you in your old age (though personally I dont understand why anyone really wants to live until they’re old and demented)?
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Answer by Sachin James
people want kids beacuse it kills their sex drive
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It’s basic nature for every living thing. food in, food out, and make miniatures of yourself. it’s the same from single celled animals to humans.
Like you said, when you get older, you will understand life better!!!
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Stop worrying about what other people want!!! You have your right to not want kids and they have their right to have kids!!
everyone has a totally different outlook on life. i cannot wait to have kids because thats apart of life. thats why we go through the pain of periods to have kids. it’s the most natural thing ever. your a very selfish person that you wouldn’t give life but your parents took that risk of you being a brat? a big problem? your still here you were a baby/kid once so were we all. i’d give everything to have a loving man and a loving baby/child because having a family is just what we are here for. your looking at a very lonely and sad life alone. look at things like never seeing your babies first smile? your childs first day at school? sadly you’ll die with nobody to cry when your gone, nobody to lay flowers at your grave, nobody to cuddle or to love you. our parents are not around forever. so your career is much more important and so is your body?! we are designed to have children, and our bodies don’t get that messed up not if you exercise and breastfeed. you will never be proud, only of your “success” you’ll never be a creator of life, that is very sad.
People want kids for many different reasons, I personally wouldn’t want to spend my life all on my own with no one around me to share all the good and bad times.
Yea you build carrier, you travel the world, you do whatever you like whenever you like but after a while you get tired of it especially when you see your friends or family around you having their own families and enjoying things you don’t have.
my last child is 6 months old now and the look on his face and the smile he gives me when I feed him or change him or just play silly games with him is absolutely priceless
no one is forcing you to have kids anyway, its your choice
Wow. You are me when I was your age. I was so intent on college and graduate school and a hotshot career. All of which I had/ still have. Then when I was 35 I had my son, who’s 21 now, and my experience raising him blows all those other things out of the water. He is by far the best thing that I ever did. But having kids isn’t for everyone, and if you never change you mind, that’s just fine. I won’t say you will, because you might not. But I know I was as adamant as you, and I did change mine.
By the way, I’m 5’8″ and weighed 118 when I got pregnant and 118 2 weeks after he was born. There’s no reason women have to gain weight after they have children. And I certainly don’t expect him to take care of me when I get old. I had him to give another human being to experience the wonders of living as I have – the good times, the bad, the difficult, the amazing…all of it. My son is an incredible human being and very happy to be on this earth. I know he is very happy I changed my mind.
You don’t have to try and understand why other people want children because, you yourself, absolutely do not want children. Any reason a person gives you will not make you understand because you already have made up your mind. It doesn’t matter, everyone has to respect others life decisions, whether or not they choose to extend their family.
some ppl want to show others that they can have kids..some do it for their own egos..all parents have their own reason for having kids
if you dont want kids…thats your right too…you dont have to explain your choice to anyone.
we dont…no kids on us..after 28 years of marriage..i know we absolutely made the right decision.
no one made it for us..the urologist made sure it wouldnt happen either..i had the snip years ago
go ahead with you plans and enjoy…you have the freedom to choose.
a birth certificate is not a warranty..you cant trade it in for a better model.